1 Common Way We Self-Sabotage + How To Stop It

As human beings, we tend to self-sabotage regularly. We get in OUR own way of achieving our goals, our dreams, our success. Understanding how we regularly self-sabotage is a critical first step in eliminating this destructive behavior.

Let’s look at one of the most common self-sabotage strategies I see in my coaching practice:

Treating The Surface Layer Problem (Or Symptom) Rather Than The Root Of The Problem.

We have a backache so we take an ibuprofen. We feel under-valued at our job, so we look for a new one. We have regular conflict with our teenager, so we seek new tools and ways of communicating with her. Our husband frustrates us, so we book a weekend getaway to reconnect.

While this is what most of us are inclined to do when life gets tricky, these “fixes” are just like putting a temporary spare donut tire on your car when you get a flat. The donut will get you where you need to go at the moment, but if you keep driving around on it, you and your car will be unbalanced and eventually have bigger problems.

Instead of a donut-tire quick fix, we need to look inward and get curious about what is really at the root of the problem:

What is physically causing your backache?

Where do your unworthiness feelings come from that you happen to notice in relation to your job?

Where have you broken connection with your teenager?

What is triggering you internally that you are projecting onto your husband?

Most of these root cause issues are buried deep within us, created way back in childhood (even our teenager’s childhood). If we want to experience regular joy, ease, and freedom, we need to do the work to uncover, deconstruct, and heal the psychic and emotional wounding underneath.

Work on the root cause, not the symptom…

With love,

Sara

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