Last night my 6-year-old son Mav took a scissors and cut a hole in my 4 year-old son Kyen’s outdoor lizard cage that housed a new pet lizard he had caught earlier that day and was very proud of. When I saw what Mav had done, I thought his actions were disrespectful and mean. He had intentionally ruined his brother’s cage. Jumping to one of the reactions we parents choose most often, I told him …