A Healing Way To Express Your Truth

Sometimes I feel so alone.

When I said these words to myself as instructed to by my chiropractor this morning, it felt like my carefully protected carafe of tears was about to burst open.  “I am alone” is the underlying false belief that has been running my life since I was a little girl. To hear someone else say it, and then for me to breathe into how this feeling was showing up in my body, left me feeling so exposed… so scared… so fragile…

As I continued the emotional healing and energetic work the doctor led me through (as part of the chiropractic healing care I sought out as one of the many tools I’m using to heal my thyroid this year), the energy around this statement shifted. A sense of balance came over my body followed by a simple contentment and ease.

I understand (and teach my clients) that by being aware of, giving a name to, and allowing our feelings to be felt, they lose their power over us and move through us, leaving behind only good nuggets of wisdom or guidance we may need. Having been aware of my lie, “I am alone and I am not wanted,” for over a decade now, I knew all the mental and mindfulness tricks to ensure it wasn’t driving my life any more…. But apparently there was one I had forgotten…

I forgot that our lie never fully goes away, even when we do the work that I lead my clients through to heal and replace these limiting beliefs with empowering ones. It’s a part of us. And because it’s a part of us – no matter how ugly or scary or untrue – it must be embraced and loved, not ignored or forgotten. Just like our inner child who developed when our authentic self was not seen or heard in our early years, these parts of our psyche no longer get to “drive the bus of our life” as I say to my clients. Yet when they show up, our wise adult self who is behind the wheel needs to pause, honor them, reparent them from compassion and love, and be curious as to why our lie or inner child is showing up now.

I haven’t connected to that personal answer for me in this experience yet, but what I’m understanding is that feeling my feelings and speaking my truth isn’t about just feeling the core feelings like fear and anger or love and hope. Feeling my feelings is about honoring the part of me that feels something like “Sometimes I feel so alone.” Or, “Sometimes I feel like I have to handle it all myself.” Or, “Sometimes it feels like nothing works.” Or, “Sometimes it feels like this is never going to end.” Or, “Sometimes I feel so disconnected.”

Whoa.

There are some big feelings underneath those statements. Especially when you are someone like me who has always been able to handle or manage a lot. Or someone like you, another human being having human feelings. I bet you can relate on some level…

Going forward, instead of only searching for a core feeling when my emotions are high or my psyche feels off, I’m going to listen in to the underlying expression that feels like my truth. What is my unmet need or fear? What is my inner child trying to say? Where have I ignored her or failed to invite her along for the ride, even though my adult self is the bus driver? I’ll do as I often coach my clients:  To put their hand on their heart and ask, “What is my truth here?”

Obviously, these statements aren’t always true – that’s why we call it a “lie” in my coaching program! For example, it’s clear that I’m not actually alone. However, the truth is that I feel this way sometimes, and I must honor myself and give the space for that truth to be expressed through me.

Here’s to expressing our truth and staying the journey.

Lots of love,

Your coach,

Sara