Topic: Relationships

Where Did My Communication Style Come From?!

In my family, being a “good” kid was rewarded. I learned quickly that good kids didn’t question authority – especially religion. Good kids were agreeable and pleasant and didn’t cause conflict. I was to be a good kid and go along with the status quo. My communication was to follow suit. When I became a teenager and rebelled against having to be a good kid for so long, I voiced my opinions with aggression and volume. As soon …

5 Ways To Make Asking For Feedback Less Cringeworthy

I cringe every time I ask for feedback… Even though I know feedback is like gold.💰 …Even though I know getting feedback is one of the best ways to dramatically improve and get better at my work. …Even though I know feedback is a straightforward way to test my self-perceptions and ensure they are accurate with others’ view of me. …Even though I know asking for and receiving feedback is an essential ingredient of emotionally …

EQ Through The Lens Of New York With 2 Kids

I introduced my 6- and 8-year-old to New York City over a long spring-break weekend earlier this month. New York holds a piece of my heart as I lived there for 4 years in my 20s, then worked for a Manhattan-based organization that brought me back to the city several times each year in my 30s. This week, I invite you to (vicariously) experience this short journey with my sons and I that will enhance …

Why We Shrink & Dim Our Light

Ever wonder why you second guess your abilities at work or underperform even though you know you’re capable of so much more? Have you ever looked in the mirror after a fight with your partner and asked, “Why did I add to this drama between us?” Or maybe you keep waking up each morning hopeful for some passion and a skip in your step, but instead it feels like you have kettlebells strapped to your ankles and …

How To Support Those Who Have Been Through Hardship

In the wake of Hurricane Ian, many leaders came to me and asked, “How can I support my colleagues who lost everything?” Maybe your colleague didn’t go through a natural disaster, but has experienced other hardships like the ending of a relationship or job, the diagnosis of a disease, financial difficulty, or the loss of a loved one. As an emotionally intelligent leader, you know that whatever’s happening in someone’s personal life also affects their …