Topic: Relationships

1 Common Way We Self-Sabotage + How To Stop It

As human beings, we tend to self-sabotage regularly. We get in OUR own way of achieving our goals, our dreams, our success. Understanding how we regularly self-sabotage is a critical first step in eliminating this destructive behavior. Let’s look at one of the most common self-sabotage strategies I see in my coaching practice: Treating The Surface Layer Problem (Or Symptom) Rather Than The Root Of The Problem. We have a backache so we take an …

How I Maintain A Household While Working Full-Time

One of the women in a Moms Group I’m part of asked us to share how we maintain a household while working full-time, and how we get our kids and partners in on the initiative. Since several people found my response helpful, I want to share it with you: “I have a housekeeper that cleans our house every week and does all our laundry. This is priceless. I know what my time is worth and …

The Only Apology That Matters

We all make mistakes. We are human. Owning our mistakes and apologizing for them is essential to nurture the important relationships in our lives – whether with our children and spouse, or co-workers and friends.  We say we are sorry so that we can move on.  But there’s only one apology that is sincere, that is worth making.  That apology is change. Imagine this: Your boss was upset with your numbers at work this morning, …

Misconceptions About Acceptance & Why It Keeps Us Stuck

Acceptance is spoken of a lot – in the yoga community, in recovery programs, with any kind of healing work. We soak in the Beatles’ song lyrics, “Let it be,” and hear from our spiritual teachers that acceptance is necessary in order for us to be happy. But I’ve learned that a lot of people, myself included at one point, don’t truly understand what the practice of acceptance means. Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation. It doesn’t …

Eliminate Drama: The #1 Time & Energy Suck

I believe drama is our #1 most unnecessary time and energy suck. In order to eliminate drama, it’s important to understand your role in its creation. Because when you do, you can choose to step into a more empowering role and change the dynamics of your situation. Let’s look at a tool used for psychotherapy that Dr. Stephen Karpman coined as the Drama Triangle in 1968. Imagine the shape of a triangle pointing down (as …