Last week I wrote to you about the necessity of developing a healthier relationship to your feelings in order to have emotional intelligence and high performance in your life. In order to do this, we need to understand that all feelings are neutral. They are not good or bad; they just are. They are part of the human experience. Sure, we often label feelings like joy, happiness, love, and gratitude as “good” feelings. And feelings …
A part of self-mastery and having the emotional intelligence that is necessary to effectively lead your team, family, and yourself is feeling your feelings. Why is this so important? Well, because our feelings are messengers. They are a communication vehicle to our inner terrain. They help us do more of what makes us feel good, avoid or establish boundaries around what doesn’t, and understand the relationships in our lives. When We Ignore Our Feelings They …
As human beings, we love a good story. Stories are how cultural traditions are passed on. They are the way we learn about our ancestors and heritage. And telling a story is one of the best ways to connect with an audience or help others retain information. Inside our heads, however, stories do not serve us. Yet so many of us spend time manufacturing, ruminating on, and acting in accordance with stories that are often …
Most of us humans are people pleasers and worry too much about what other people think of us. One of the main reasons for this is that we are a tribal species. In the earliest days of our species, our tribe (especially the alpha, or leader) had to like and accept us so we could maintain our place in the tribe, which meant food, safety, and survival. If someone, especially the alpha, didn’t like us …
Am I An Impostor? Have you ever started a new job and felt like you were an impostor who was bound to be “found out” eventually? Have you ever felt like your position in life was too good to be true, and it was all going to fall away eventually because surely you don’t deserve “this much” credit, support, or appreciation? Well, my friend, you could be experiencing what is known as Impostor Syndrome. But …