Were you the woman behind me at the post office yesterday? The one who was huffing and sighing and displeased? The one who kept eyeing her watch and tap-tap-tapping her feet? The one whose displeasure I could feel even with my back to her and three feet of space between us? Was that you? Well, it’s been me before. I’ve been busy and rushing and trying to check things off my To Do list. I’ve felt like …
One of my clients asked me recently, “How can I soften expectations of myself while still leading a powerful life.” Let’s dive into this more. The first thing that we must do is understand where our expectations are coming from. Are your expectations truly yours or are they coming from pressure from someone or something else? Are you looking at someone else’s false portrayal of reality on Facebook and feeling bad about an aspect of …
As much as I love the life I’ve created and my routine that makes me feel good, I enjoy just as much taking a fun vacation. According to a study published in 2010 in the journal Applied Research In Quality Of Life, however, it isn’t actually taking the trip that increases our joy. It’s the anticipation of it that has the greater impact on our happiness. My challenge to you, should you choose to accept it, …
If you are reading this and following me, it’s likely you are committed to growth in your life in some way. You want to understand better so you can do better. As Abraham Maslow discussed in his motivation theory, The Hierarchy of Needs, you want to become self actualized, which means achieving your full potential in life. Your and my drive for growth may be at different strengths or paces, but we are committed to …
Acceptance is spoken of a lot – in the yoga community, in recovery programs, with any kind of healing work. We soak in the Beatles’ song lyrics, “Let it be,” and hear from our spiritual teachers that acceptance is necessary in order for us to be happy. But I’ve learned that a lot of people, myself included at one point, don’t truly understand what the practice of acceptance means. Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation. It doesn’t …