How To Control Your Reaction When Someone Hurts You

“There is a saying that you are the only one who can control how you feel. How do you master this when you are a reactive person and perhaps someone says something hurtful?”  đź¤” Great question!!!  I got this as an anonymous question at a workshop I led a couple weeks back and am excited to have the opportunity to answer it for you.🙋‍♀️  There are ways to turn our programmed reactions into mindful responses. And …

3 Steps To More Confidence

Confidence cannot be faked. It’s also situational. This means that just because you are confident in one area of your life, like the nitty gritty of your job or with your closest friends, it doesn’t mean you’ll be confident public speaking or when leading a new project at work. I recently sat down with my friend Colin Estrem, owner of Estrem & Co. Talent Acquisition, to talk confidence. We specifically discussed how to create more …

How To Get What You Want By Making Better Requests

Do you forget that your partner is not a mind reader, like me and many of the clients I’ve worked with? “I left the clean clothes on top of the dryer, but my husband didn’t fold them!” one said. “Did you ask him to fold them?” I asked. “No…” she replied. “I really wanted to go to that event but my husband didn’t offer to stay home with the boys so that I could attend,” …

An Important Refresher On A Skill We Can ALL Improve On: Mindful Listening

I learned what a poor listener I was in 2009 in the middle of a yoga teacher training. I realized that most of the time when I thought I was listening, I wasn’t actually listening to the person in front of me. Instead, I was crafting my response in my head, thinking about how to make myself sound good, or telling myself how right I was and how wrong they were. Not to mention the …

How Your Need To Get It Perfect Or Be The “Good Girl” Is Blocking Connection

When my first son was a toddler, I was stressed out nearly every time I was in public with him. Whether at Target or a friend’s house or in our front yard, I felt like his every move, word choice, and behavior was being judged and a reflection of me and my parenting skills (or lack thereof). If he threw a tantrum or cried or wasn’t grateful about a gift he had been given or …