Our 3 Main Concerns When We Fear Change + How To Move Past Them

I believe that we human beings are inherently driven to express our true greatness and keep growing. In fact, in the Audible book “Powerful: Building a Culture of Freedom and Responsibility” written by Patty McCord, who was the chief talent officer of Netflix and responsible for creating its innovative culture, she agrees with this belief. She shares that their high performance culture was created by offering challenges and problems that need to be solved to employees, rather than incentives, promised career paths, or perks like a company barista or bartender. If you lead a team of any size in this ever-changing world, it’s a fascinating book.

Anyway, while we humans are driven for growth (especially personal and professional growth that will really up-level our life), we sometimes hold back because of fear of change. Here, I’ll share with you our three main concerns when we fear change, and how you can turn them around to support your greatness.

When we fear change, we fear:

1.  Loss 

We fear that changing means we’ll lose time, friends, money, being able to eat cookies whenever we want, wine, sleeping in, mindless scrolling, make-me-feel-good shopping, etc.

INSTEAD focus on all you will gain by making the change you desire: more productive time, positive energy, money, a healthy slim body, a clearer head, authentic friendships, memories with your quickly growing children, etc.

2.  Hard Work

We fear that changing means we’ll have to go through a challenging process and do a lot of hard work to make it happen.

INSTEAD focus on your end goal and making the process fun or easier by doing it with others, a trusted mentor, a proven method, a reward system for completing each step of the journey, etc.

3)  Disappointment 

We fear that changing will result in lower results than we had hoped for. Ex: My goal was to lose 10 pounds but I only lost 3. I learned how to ice skate, but I haven’t yet landed the triple salchow. Or a limiting belief driven statement of “It just won’t work for me.”

INSTEAD focus on knowing that whenever you pursue goals and personal or professional growth in any way, you’re learning and growing in all areas of your life. All parts of your life are integrated. When you have improvements in your marriage, you’ll see improvements in your career, and vice versa. When you grow in your parenting, you’ll grow in your friend group and community, and vice versa. Your effort towards yourself will pay off far into the future (even if your results are different than you expected).

What else is holding you back from making the change you desire in your heart? Let me know so we can deconstruct it together in a future blog.

To your growth,

Sara

xo