I received this Ask-Me-Anything (AMA) message from a reader recently: “What do you do when you are in need of empathy? My husband and I had a miscarriage recently and it is hard to talk about, especially with my team. I find myself getting frustrated when they are in a spat about something that seems minor compared to what I’m trying to work through. It is unfair to them for me to feel this way, but I can’t always …
In my family, being a “good” kid was rewarded. I learned quickly that good kids didn’t question authority – especially religion. Good kids were agreeable and pleasant and didn’t cause conflict. I was to be a good kid and go along with the status quo. My communication was to follow suit. When I became a teenager and rebelled against having to be a good kid for so long, I voiced my opinions with aggression and volume. As soon …
Do you get as excited about spreadsheets, processes, and organization as I do? Chances are about 50/50 that you don’t. As all of the many personality tests will tell us, from DISC to the Enneagram to the time-tested Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator that I remember taking several decades ago in college, we are naturally wired to think and collaborate and use our unique strengths quite differently than others. This is good! Because research shows diversity on our …
I cringe every time I ask for feedback… Even though I know feedback is like gold.💰 …Even though I know getting feedback is one of the best ways to dramatically improve and get better at my work. …Even though I know feedback is a straightforward way to test my self-perceptions and ensure they are accurate with others’ view of me. …Even though I know asking for and receiving feedback is an essential ingredient of emotionally …
I introduced my 6- and 8-year-old to New York City over a long spring-break weekend earlier this month. New York holds a piece of my heart as I lived there for 4 years in my 20s, then worked for a Manhattan-based organization that brought me back to the city several times each year in my 30s. This week, I invite you to (vicariously) experience this short journey with my sons and I that will enhance …