In our culture, boys aren’t allowed to be sad and girls aren’t allowed to be angry. I’ve been sitting with this a lot lately—and seeing how it plays out in boardrooms, clubhouses, and even bedtime routines at home. 👉 When boys aren’t allowed to feel sadness, they grow into men who default to silence, sarcasm, or shut down when vulnerable conversations arise. 👉 When girls aren’t allowed to feel anger, they grow into women who …
I received this Ask-Me-Anything (AMA) message from a reader recently: “What do you do when you are in need of empathy? My husband and I had a miscarriage recently and it is hard to talk about, especially with my team. I find myself getting frustrated when they are in a spat about something that seems minor compared to what I’m trying to work through. It is unfair to them for me to feel this way, but I can’t always …
As leaders, we often find ourselves making decisions we believe to be rooted in logic and reason. However, it might surprise you to learn that emotions play a pivotal role in every decision we make, both big and small. We tend to act based on emotions or habits before attempting to justify our choices logically. This phenomenon holds true whether we’re buying a car, seeking the guidance of a coach, or even selecting the groceries …
Do you ever, amid a challenge or challenging time, find yourself… in the kitchen… looking for a snack? Me too. In the days after the hurricane that just ran through my community, Hurricane Ian, the fridge has been less of a food source (because I’m not even hungry) and more of a distraction, a procrastination technique, a door to answers of seemingly insoluble questions. Maybe you’ve experienced disaster, loss, trauma, tragedy – big or small, …
My whole life people have described me as strong. In my early career, with an aspiration for success, I emulated the strength of those in top business positions who were mostly male. The masculine style of leadership that dominated our culture until this century was more about using managerial power over others to get them to do what they wanted (“Do it because I’m the boss and I say so.”), rather than connecting to a …