If you’re like a lot of leaders I work with, your spouse knows almost as much about the annoying clients or staff drama you deal with every day as you do. It’s hard to separate work from home – especially when work is extra stressful. So we often unload on our partners because we need someone to vent to. I get it; I find myself ruminating on frustrations or conversations I wish would have gone a different …
In my family, being a “good” kid was rewarded. I learned quickly that good kids didn’t question authority – especially religion. Good kids were agreeable and pleasant and didn’t cause conflict. I was to be a good kid and go along with the status quo. My communication was to follow suit. When I became a teenager and rebelled against having to be a good kid for so long, I voiced my opinions with aggression and volume. As soon …
Do you get as excited about spreadsheets, processes, and organization as I do? Chances are about 50/50 that you don’t. As all of the many personality tests will tell us, from DISC to the Enneagram to the time-tested Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator that I remember taking several decades ago in college, we are naturally wired to think and collaborate and use our unique strengths quite differently than others. This is good! Because research shows diversity on our …
I cringe every time I ask for feedback… Even though I know feedback is like gold.💰 …Even though I know getting feedback is one of the best ways to dramatically improve and get better at my work. …Even though I know feedback is a straightforward way to test my self-perceptions and ensure they are accurate with others’ view of me. …Even though I know asking for and receiving feedback is an essential ingredient of emotionally …
Strength is a word that’s come up for a lot of my clients recently: “I want the strength to lead with impact during this challenging time.” “Strength looks like me having that hard conversation with my father while there’s still time.” “I want my team to be stronger leaders who hold their staff accountable.” Strength is often the word that gets used in our conversations at work and home, but I think it is not …