Want to Feel Supported? Here’s What I Learned

“To be done right, I have to do it myself.”

“Why is this happening to me?”

“I’m gonna have to figure this out myself.”

“I’m not supported.”

Have you ever felt any of these ways?  These are common patterns I have to disrupt in my mind on a regular basis.

These beliefs are false, but ones that I bought into at a very young age as I was trying to make sense of the world without a fully developed brain or psyche.

When thoughts like these enter my mind, my first step is to notice them (because we can’t change anything without first having awareness). Meditation is a beautiful tool to help you learn to observe what’s going on in your mind, rather than be consumed by it.

After noticing these thoughts, I recognize they are coming from a place of victim consciousness, not from an empowered co-creator state. It’s here that I choose to take radical self-responsibility and recognize that I am not my thoughts. Instead, I am the observer of my thoughts and can choose different, more empowering ones.

I do this by first poking holes in the lie that I am choosing to believe in the moment.

Take “I am not supported” as an example. This one has been coming up a lot for me the last few weeks. To dismantle this lie, I look for all the evidence that supports the opposite truth that “I AM supported,” rather than attaching to any victim-driven evidence of the contrary.

I thought about my part-time assistants and all they’ve helped create in my business.

I mentally went down my list of friends that have supported me.

And I remembered all the ways my life has turned out better than I could have possibly imagined via support from the universe, God, or whatever you call our higher power.

With this, I began moving out of victimhood and into an empowered creator state.

But we can’t just stop there.

Once we disrupt the pattern of victimhood, we have to take conscious aligned action – this means doing something in line with our aspirational self or the larger intentions we have for our life.

For me this looked like reaching out to my friends, letting them know I was going through a hard time, and allowing them each to support me in their unique ways. My old pattern would have been to keep my struggles to myself and work through them in mind, further cementing the lie that I am alone and not supported. But by reaching out to others, I shifted into a state of being able to receive their support.

After doing so, several synchronicities of support happened in my life:

• I received an email from a client offering to do something for me as part of our engagement I had been wondering how to accomplish myself
• Two different soul sisters who always seem to be tuned into when I need support reached out to me “randomly”
•  And I received an unexpected gift from my dad that will make my life a lot easier and enjoyable

To me, these are little nudges from the universe that I am on the right path, and confirmation of the truth that “I am supported” rather than the victim lie I can get stuck to within my head.

Can you see how this process could help you shift into empowered thinking and aligned action?

So much love to you,

Your coach,

💜Sara

P.S. Here’s a recap of my process:

1. Notice when you’re thinking and operating from a bogus belief.
2. Choose radical responsibility – you always have the power to shift your reality and results.
3. Poke holes in the bogus belief – where in your life is this just not true?
4. Take conscious aligned action that cements your empowered TRUTH.
5. Receive the gifts from the universe. 😊